How To Battle Low-Self Esteem

"Precious" actress Gabourney Sidibe, may have failed to nabbed the Best Actress award last Oscars but she did win a lot of nods and applauses not only for such an achievement but how she shone when she walked the red carpet.

I have no idea as to what is Sidibe’s size or weight but to look radiant and care less on her critiques is something to be admired. The pressures of Hollywood may mean too much on a person especially getting that Cinderella stance like how this girl got nominated alongside veteran actress Sandra Bullock and Meryl Streep, but instead of pulling away from the limelight Sidibe handled it all with grace.

Total Confidence is the best definition one can come up when describing a person who loves oneself. When we say "love for oneself" it doesn't necessarily mean selfishness but rather acceptance and respect for oneself. At her physical figure many women today would have a difficult time to accept what Sidibe had. This was what earned other people's respect and praises.

How to boost one's self confidence is quite hard nowadays. From physical attributes to financial status to personal achievements, being content with what one has is an issue that many are having difficulty to resolve. Media has taken full control on how most people think. They have given out pictures of slimmer women and hunkier men as an equivalent for the term "beautiful". Such "perfection" is usually delivered in association with success: wealth, happiness, and partners. It has given out a message saying "be like this and you'll be happy too" which has given too much pressure thus increasing stress on people.

Most people nowadays have taken the image of perfection in terms of physical aspects. This has somehow degraded those who seem not "qualified" for such standard. Self respect is loss and low self esteem is developed. This is definitely alarming for psychologically it may also lead to the feeling of unloved. To compensate these people develop certain habits that are considered unhealthy like smoking, drugs, and even food. Day by day intakes of such become excessive that can cause harm and pain not only on yourself but also on those around: you become unfit but most of all you become grouchy and depressed.

Remember that whatever mood we manifest will radiate to the people around us. If it's something depressing it will infect others as well that no work will be done; all activities may halt and hopeless will definitely fill in thus creating more stress in you part and on others too.

Here are ways to battle low self-esteem to become the better you people are sure to be magnetized.
1. Think of that one time when you first did something new. They say experience is the first teacher. If you were praised doing that takes note of it as a booster. If it turned out negatively then learn from it. To make it a motivator think of you as lucky enough to have experienced since this was also an opportunity for growth.

2. Take note of the times when you feel great and when you didn't. What did you do to make you feel that way? When you target it then write it down. Highlight the moments when you take it as something special (it doesn't matter if these are fewer, like I said even misfortunes are great opportunities for growth.

3. Try to see yourself as a "why not" person rather than the "why" one. Risks are part of life. They say that if you give up something there is bound to be a much better replacement in return. Let go of that comfort zones and try to replace it with the adventurous attitude that you deserve to have. Picture a frog who once lived in a well, he then took the initiative to go out where he saw the pond. Living in the pond was great but when he took the step to stay away he discovered the vast ocean.

4. Try to see the difference between what people may think if you do something and what they think about themselves. Being afraid of criticism even that people are starring may really trip you off but you might be surprised when you find out that these people are so preoccupied of themselves that thinking of you is the least of their worries. This is also the same for those who think that people in the neighborhood are gossiping about you. Keep in mind that they are not tenant screening services but persons who have their own life to live as much as you have your own.

5. Talk to yourself (in a positive way). There are times you'd laugh at it or think of yourself as someone crazy but talking to you may help. Say what you want to say to yourself and let loose of all the angst. Not convince yourself that there are better things for you to do than worry about what others have to say. Being yourself is great plus the fact that doing what you've always wanted to do is a reward indeed.


At times it's quite hard to keep up with the positive mode, but just in case you think you're losing it remember the triple "F": FOCUS, FOCUS and FOCUS.

• FOCUS on the fact that God wanted great things for you
• FOCUS on your ideals and what you want to accomplish
• FOCUS on that mental image that you are great

Life here on earth is only borrowed and it’s best, as God’s tenants, that we do our own tenant background check of ourselves and see what may have caused our lack of enjoying life. Remember to always stay great, give respect and love yourself...always smile for God is good.